Miss Phoenixxx
BDSM Educator in the Bay Area
Philosophy
Education shouldn't always be "I am the teacher, I know best, shut up and listen." (Maybe in a neuroscience course or something technical, sure.) I am not perfect and I will definitely get things wrong from time to time. I welcome students speaking up and telling me I was wrong. I welcome students teaching me about things I don't know (because I DON'T know everything.) Students shouldn't be made to feel stupid for any question, from asking how to put on a condom to the best places to pierce skin with a needle. Everyone has a different level of knowledge and everyone is an expert on something different. I want to listen to all of that.
My philosophy is to be laid back enough that students feel comfortable being themselves while still providing valuable information. I aim to leave every lesson having taught something and having learned something. I may be the one in a position of power, but that doesn't mean I have to let the power get to my head.
Expertise
Classroom Teaching
My passion for sex education shines through in the classroom because I feel I am able to get close with my students through weeks of instruction and can better adapt to their needs.
Zoom Teaching
Students who attend through Zoom get the benefit of learning material that can be embarrassing or cause anxiety in the safety of any location they want. I ensure my students get as close to a "Classroom Experience" as possible by involving them in polls, discussions, and more.
Workshop Leading
A good, hands-on workshop can be the difference between a concept sticking and falling flat. Being able to teach large groups skills like basic knots is no easy task, yet I find it so worthwhile.
Sample Work
Please note that these are small portions of a day's lesson plan. These in no way encompass the topic at hand and are to give an idea of what a lesson in my classroom is like.
BDSM Acronyms (Week 3: BDSM Safety)
Here is an excerpt of my Week 3 lesson: BDSM Safety. Beyond this specific part of the lesson, we also discuss Online Safety, IRL Safety, Safety at BDSM events, and BDSM Social Media platforms. The discussion I facilitate in this lesson ends up with about 5% of the class indicating CCC is the best, 20% indicating SSC is the best, and the remaining 75% being split pretty evenly between RACK and PRICK, leaning more towards PRICK.
Sex Toy Care (Week 5: Sex Toy Day)
Here is an excerpt of my Week 5 lesson: Sex Toy Day. This specific chunk of lesson is actually the very end of Sex Toy Day. At this point in time, we have just finished going over all the sex toys I brought into class (students get to hold each toy, turn it on, see its modes, etc) and then I give students the opportunity to ask questions about the toys now that they have seen so many. After this section, we clean up a bit and students are free to leave while others choose to stay behind and try their hand at throwing an 8 foot whip.
Testimonials
A Fall 2022 Student Says:
Phoenix navigates taboo, and sometimes difficult, topics in a way that only she could - honestly, and in a fun, personal way that simultaneously felt friendly and professional. When the class first met, we were all a little nervous and awkward, and very very different. By the end of it, we were friends. At least for myself, I can say that Phoenix's class has broken the stigma of taboo conversations, beyond just BDSM, and into my every day life where her kind of unashamed neutral honesty is invaluable and refreshing.
-- Chris
A Spring 2023 Student Says:
When I first heard of BDSM 101 was a class available here at SF-State; it caught my attention. I wasn’t sure what the class was going be, but it was exactly what I needed, an overall guidance of the world of BDSM. Phoenix’s personal accounts along with her personality is what makes this class interesting, informative, and just fun. With the topic of BDSM being something just taboo, it was nice just to have someone who’s confident and not afraid to talk about the subject.
-- David